Being in an intimate relationship with another person can at times be challenging, which can be even more so when one partner has Borderline Personality Disorder, otherwise known as BPD.

BPD is a mental health condition that affects a person’s ability to regulate their emotions and behaviour. It can lead to intense mood swings, impulsivity, and unstable relationships. However, with the right treatment, it is possible to have a successful marriage with a partner who has BPD

Firstly, it is essential to understand that that BPD is a complex condition that requires professional help. No doubt you have already encouraged your partner to seek therapy and to actively support them throughout their treatment. Couples therapy can also be helpful in improving communication and reducing conflict between each other.

Secondly, it is crucial to set boundaries and communicate with your partner clearly. People with BPD often struggle with abandonment fears and may act out in ways that are hurtful or destructive to their relationships. By setting clear boundaries, you can heop your partner feel more secure and reduce the likelihood of conflict.

Thirdly, it is important for you to practice self-care. Being married to someone with BPD is typically emotionally taxing, therefore it is essential to take care of your own mental health needs. This may include seeking therapy for yourself or engaging in activities that bring you joy and meaning to your life.

Finally, remember that recover from BPD is possible. With the right treatment and support, people with BPD can learn to manage their symptoms effectively. Through working together as a team, and focusing on the positive aspects of your relationship, you can build a strong and healthy relationship.

Symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder

BPD is a mental health disorder that affects a person’s thoughts, emotions and behaviours. According to Healthdirect Australia, some common symptoms of BPD include:


Symptom Behaviour of borderline personality disorder (bPD)

Low self-esteem.
Feeling empty inside.
Strong, overwhelming emotions and feelings.
Intense mood swings, including outbursts of anxiety, anger and depression.
A pattern of tumultuous relationships with friends, family, and loved ones.
Alternating between idealising and devaluing other people.
Fear of being alone and frantic attempts to avoid abandonment.
Feeling neglected, alone, misunderstood, chronically empty or bored.
Feelings of self-loathing and self-hate.
Self-harm, such as cutting self as a coping mechanism.
Suicidal thoughts or suicide attempts.
Impulsive and risk-taking behaviour, such as unsafe sex, illegal drug use, gambling, overeating, reckless driving or overspending.
Black-and-white thinking or difficulty compromising.
Paranoid thoughts in response to stress.
Feeling cut off and out of touch with reality.